I often find myself asking for permission from other people to live my life. It doesn’t look like the way you may think such as literally asking someone. I mean when I don’t go after the things that I want to accomplish. I do not just mean goals alone either. I also mean with my healing from the traumas that I have experienced, letting go of the past, or just moving forward with life.
There are a lot of people and things that tells us who we should be like parents, friends, experiences, and the things we see in media. But we are not meant to adjust to everyones view of who we should be. We are individuals no matter how something/someone tries to make us seem all the same. People may judge us on if you do not meet their expectation. Then label people as there is something wrong with you type of mentality. I think today, it is easier to forget who we are as people. I think that it is easier to lose the essence of who we are created to be. The thing that I have been realizing is we do not need to ask anyone else who we should be… I believe we know who we are. It is just actively living it out daily.
8 Ways To Not Ask Permission To Be Yourself
1. You don’t have to wait for other people to agree with you or believe in you to move forward with your life.
I think too often we wait for people to be onboard with what we want to do. The truth is if you know it is something you need to do or feel like it was put in you to do then why wait.
2. To not worry what other people are going to say about you or to you, which, of course, is easier said than done.
People are going to say something about you and what you are doing no matter if it is good or bad. You are never going to please everyone. Take it from me. If you put in all the efforts to please everyone you may end up alone not really knowing who you are.
3. Just Start Working
I know for me. I spend too much time in my head than implementing the things I want to do for me.
4. You don’t need someone else to like what you like or go with you to places. Just do what you enjoy doing.
I have heard many people tell me that they can not do something alone and they need someone to do something with them. The truth is you do not need someone to go with you to enjoy life and the things that you enjoy doing. I have been to spoken word performances, movie, dinner, arcades, etc. It may sound weird but if it is something you want to do just do it.
5. Create Time And Space To Just Be
Too often we are there for other people (friends, family, customers depending on your job). We are not just here to be there for other people. We owe ourselves time to hear ourselves. We are no good to other people when we focus on only others and not ourselves.
6. Always be yourself and not conform to what other may perceive or want you to be.
Conforming to other peoples ideals leaves the world empty from the things that you bring to the world. Why do that??? Conforming to peoples ideals is the worst decision you can make because people are to finicky. One day they like you and the next they can not stand you. That honestly makes you feel more hurt than just being yourself.
7. Try New Things
There are some things that are out there that you may be interested in or thought about trying. Allow yourself the curiosity to experience new things even if it is not something you are going to choose to do on a regular basis.
8. Ask Yourself What You Want.
I believe that we all know the things that we want. Stand by the healthy things you want out of life and do not allow other people to sway you decisions.
You do not need other peoples permission to be you, to heal, to change, to grow, to learn, to be the best you. Just be what you need for yourself to be a better version of yourself.