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Believing in Yourself

Your ability to believe in yourself affects multiple areas of your life. It affects your motivation, confidence, self-esteem, and self-perception. Sometimes we let certain things limit ourselves from doing the things that we are meant to do in life. Many people say that they do not do things in their life out of fear, but I think fear is just the surface level to why we limit ourselves. It can be because of tradition, the past, diagnoses/illness, and negative self-perception. Those things have the ability to limit you, if you choose to allow it or you can push yourself to do the the things you fear.

Limiting Yourself

Traditions

We all have something or done something in life that is done with no rhyme or reason, but we do them because it’s tradition without understanding the reasoning to why something was done. What was right for them at the time might not be what’s right for you. It doesn’t mean in your life you have to do everything the exact same way. Just because someone else did it a different way then you were thinking doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Your allowed to have a different opinion. Even though you may love your family and friends you don’t have to follow their way. Instead lead by doing the things you were meant to do in YOUR life.

The Past

This is something that we all know, but I am going to say it anyway, okay. We all have a past. No matter how good or bad, supportive or unsupportive, loving or unloving, etc. We all have one! No matter if it’s positive or negative don’t let it limit you. Don’t let it stop you from growing to the next level. Whether it’s personal growth, dreams, ideas, future possibilities, etc. If your past was good let the positive experiences and feelings fuel you to what’s next for you to do. If it wasn’t all that great, fuel yourself now with self-love, boosting yourself esteem, and confidence and proceed with your life to the endless possibilities waiting for you.

I can admit, I am guilty of this one far too often. There are times when I feel like I am too damaged from my past to do anything else with my life. Other times I am afraid to be successful because of the way so many people have treated me. Also, it’s because I don’t want fair weather friends and family.

Diagnosis

Sometimes people can feel limited by a diagnosis or illness that has changed the way their life runs. I am learning in my life that the diagnosises I have about my health are not the end all be all of my life. They are to me stop signs that mean I need to take care of myself in that specific area more. That it limits me only if I allow to.

Self-perception

How you see yourself is important. It effects what you say to yourself. How you allow others to treat you. It effects your self esteem, confidence, and motivation. Negative self perception can limit you if you allow it. There are times in your life we’re no one might be on the same page as you, but that doesn’t mean you stop living out the things you are supposed to do. I feel like if you hold yourself back out of fear you’re mostly like going to miss out on the essence of who you are.

Push Yourself

I have been questioning myself from the last challenge about who I am and pushing myself to be more of the real me even if it doesn’t look right to other people because it is me. One thing that I learned about myself from the last cahllenge is what’s holding me back and why am I holding myself back. It’s kind of where this weeks challenge comes from. If you didn’t see it on the social media pages then I will put it at the bottom of this post. Try the challenge for a week and see how you feel afterwards.

This week try to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. If you are limiting the possibilities of what you can do, then start working on that goal that you have for yourself. Maybe you have a negative self-perception, consider challenging that mindset, and try to see yourself differently. Whatever you need to work on that you have been afraid to do or been putting off, challenge yourself by trusting yourself and your decisions this week.

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Affirming Yourself!

If you could overcome your negative thoughts, would you?


Affirmations is a coping skill that is used to challenge negative thoughts. The more you say them to yourself. You will begin to believe them hopefully, and the outcome will be positive thoughts and change for your life.

Benefits of Affirmation

  • There is no one size fit all affirmation. Creating your own affirmation allows you to choose what you need in this moment and time in your life to help you get through negative thoughts. 
  • When you continuously repeat affirmations, it changes your attitude to what is possible for your life. You begin to see yourself in a positive way and help increase your self-esteem.

How to Write Affirmations????

I am statements are the most common way to write affirmations. 

  • I am good enough.
  • I am loved.
  • I am worth the time. 

These are just a few affirmations that I use regularly. I am statements are not the only way to write affirmations. They can also be written as statements as long as it is positive without adding a negative statement to the affirmation. I struggled with these kinds of statements. Most of my statements when I first started writing them was:

  • My voice matters, but is too quiet to be heard.
  • I am good enough only when I do…..

These are not affirming statements that boost a positive mindset; instead, they lower my self-worth. Affirmations can sometimes be hard to write when you are first starting, but just remember the statement is about you. To improve the way that you feel about yourself. All you gotta do is keep it positive and repeat it as often as possible.

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Hold Your Head Up and Do Everything in Confidence

Lately, I have been thinking about words, thoughts, and experiences and how they affect me in the way I feel about myself. What I realized was whether what was said or done was coming from an internal place or said or done by another person, you control your next response. You can be defeated or encourage. I hope you choose to be encouraged.

Self-Validation

Validation can sometimes be misunderstood. Many think that it has to do with other people believing the person who is expressing their thoughts, feelings, or experience. Validation is the acknowledgment and acceptance of another person’s thoughts, feelings, or experience. It’s not always agreeing with another person. Self-validation is the same just internally with your acceptance of your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. We all have thoughts whether they are positive or negative. Both extremes can change or alter our thoughts and feelings towards ourselves. One thing that I have learned is I can not stop negative thoughts, but I can validate them and go to a different thought pattern. It’s difficult to do. I struggle with it a lot. Even though we have negative thoughts, feelings, and experiences in life we do not have to let them control us. We all want to have good thoughts, feelings, and experiences in our lives. The way to get there when dealing with negative things in our lives is to accept that we feel this way and affirm ourselves with what is good and true in our lives.

Not Pleasing Other People

It is easy sometimes to fall into doing something that you do not necessarily want to do. Some times it’s because you feel like you have to. Other times it is because a person feels like they will get something out of it. Sometimes people please others because they don’t want to lose someone they care about in their life. If you fall into any of these categories, compromising who you are and what you need is unnecessary. When you do that, it changes the way that you feel about yourself. I know for me, when I try to please people in my life, it takes away my identity and takes away my confidence. One thing that I notice in my life is that when I am not trying to please other people and doing the things that I enjoy, I have more confidence in myself. My attitude towards myself changes to see the different possibilities of life.

Having a Voice

Having a voice in different situations can be difficult, especially if you are a people pleaser. When you are silent, it is easier for people to take advantage of you or think that you are complicit in a bad situation. Recently in my life, I have begun to have a voice in my life and with things that have happened to me. For example, I have a manager, whos negativity was becoming too much for me to handle where I would become angry with the things he said. When the anger was directed at me, it made me feel bad about myself, but when I told him how I felt about his actions, it took the responsibility of his anger off of me and back onto him. What I learned was I could not control what other people do, but I can control what I am exposed to. Even though my manager retaliated against me, it didn’t change the new respect I had for myself. I was able to hold my head up and have more confidence in myself. I know that having a voice in situations can be challenging, but it is worth it.

Just Being You

Many things go on in life, but through everything that is going on, it’s important to be yourself and not compromise who you are. Take time to encourage yourself. Maybe share your interest with the people around you. Do things that you enjoy. It can possibly give you more confidence in yourself and help you respect yourself.

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Do something that you enjoy EVERYDAY!!!!!

3 Benefits of Doing Something that You Enjoy Everyday

  1. Confidences Improves

When you do the things that you enjoy, it allows you to feel good about yourself. You’re taking the time to do something that you love and giving yourself the space to be yourself. Your confidence will improve because you appreciate the abilities that make you the unique person that you are.

2. Enjoy Life More

You will enjoy life more by doing the things that you enjoy. You will feel like you apart of life instead of merely existing. Possibly you will want to do more things.

3. Increase Motivation

It gives you something to look forward to doing. When you do something that you enjoy, it can lead to wanting to do more tasks, even those that are not enjoyable.

My Experience

I try every day to do something that I enjoy—someday, its more challenging than others based on what I have going on in my life. On a busy day, it might be I wear my favorite clothes, I eat my favorite food or listen to my favorite songs. This may not sound exciting, but its what I like to do without overly stressing myself out by adding things in my day that I do not have time for even though I love them. On less busy days, I like to do arts and crafts projects, photography, write poetry, go for long walks, or plan and write a post. By just adding one thing a day that I enjoy has changed the way I feel about myself. Some new-found confidence has come from giving myself space to be me and doing something I enjoy. To offend in my life, I have tried to please people by doing the things they enjoy instead of what I like to do. As a result, I developed self-hatred. This small step changed my attitude from self-hatred to appreciating different parts of who I am. As a result of that, I feel like I am apart of life. It has helped me discover other things I want to do. Finally, from doing something that I enjoy everyday, I am motivated to do things that I usually do not like because I feel like I’m apart of life and not just a watcher of life.